Feminist BDSM - Isabella Frappier
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Feminist BDSM

Feminist BDSM

Finding Your Inner Godddess

In my work as a Sexuality Doula, I often incorporate the foundational principles of BDSM into my work. I believe that the basic aspects of BDSM can be extremely beneficial to anyone who would like to have a healthy sex life, whether partnered or solo, kinky or vanilla (non-BDSM).

 

As I see it, the building blocks of BDSM are:

 

  • Clear and kind communication
  • Physical and emotional boundaries
  • Informed, enthusiastic consent
  • Clear expectations
  • Fun exploration
  • Aftercare

 

Some clients specifically seek me out because of my experience with BDSM and want to safely learn how to incorporate kink in their own lives. Others aren’t interested in kink at all, but enjoy how much the foundational elements of BDSM can improve their non-kinky sex lives.

 

The most common questions I’m asked about BDSM is “is BDSM feminist?”, to which I answer a resounding “YES!”. When your needs are being met and addressed equally in a relationship, and everyone feels safe and heard, and is having a lovely time, then playing with BDSM is feminist. In fact, BDSM couples often report improved levels of trust, excellent communication skills, and clear boundaries.

Isabella Frappier Feminist BDSM